What’s Right For Your Loved One
It is important to take the time to understand your relatives needs and desires. Remember, it’s very difficult for people to come to terms with the fact that they are no longer capable of caring for themselves. In many cases, your relatives need to feel self-sufficient will conflict with your concern for his or her safety and welfare.
An open line of communication between you and your relative on is essential. Try to put yourself in your relatives shoes. Above all, be patient.
Here are some hints to help you through this difficult time:
Considerations For Your Loved One
- Assess your relatives capabilities and limitations
- Obtain an evaluation from a care professional such as your GP, district nurse or social worker
- Include the entire family in the decision-making process
- Talk to your relative about your concern for his or her welfare
- Give your relative examples of how extended care has helped others
- Allow your relative to make his or her own decisions, if able to do so
- Listen to your relative
- Make constructive suggestions, not blameful or negative statements
- Choose an appropriate time to talk to your relative
- Do not minimize your realtives feelings
- No matter how difficult the situation, do not argue
Be kind . . . your relative may fear losing control, becoming dependent or a burden.
Be positive . . . your relative may not understand or believe that you have his or her best interest in mind. Remember . . . accepting help is difficult for many people.
